Fear is Stupid. So are Regrets.

Working can be hard, but I am still so excited to be starting a brand new project.

Sometimes, I get down on myself because I feel like I have been busting my butt for years to make things happen. Well, I have — I’ve been in this industry for over a decade now. There have been some highs and definitely some lows. But, through it all I’ve somehow managed to keep pushing because ultimately I am doing what I love.

Doing what you love doesn’t make it easy, and it doesn’t mean you’ll “rise to the top” fast. It takes a lot of work, a lot of commitment, and a lot of heartache to stay dedicated to a dream. It’s sometimes hard to witness others’ easy successes when I’ve been at this for so long and haven’t had anything come to me “easily.” I feel like I’ve started over a lot, taken time off when it got too hard, and honestly some days I seriously considered throwing in the towel completely and never looking back. I have faced so much rejection in my life, in this industry, and in love, and in this scene, and in friendships, and in just about every aspect of life you can imagine. Rejection can be so exhausting, so hurtful, and it makes you want to just give up.

Others from my past would tell me that not all dreams you have come true, that there’s a time to “grow up and face reality” and say goodbye to your dreams. Needless to say, none of those people are in my life now, but their words still carry a weight. It’s funny how easy it is to believe a negative comment, to surrender to the thought of “well, maybe I just wasn’t meant for this after all,” and it’s FAR more difficult to believe in yourself and believe those negative comments could be wrong.

The truth is, those negative words would be anywhere in anything you decided to do. Why? Well, quite frankly because people cannot mind their own business. It wouldn’t matter if you decided to lead a simple life of staying at home and baking cookies, or a crazy-complex life full of giant feather fans and sequins and dancing on stages all over the world, someone out there along the way is bound to have an opinion and try to shut you down. Those people are still important — those naysayers and bullies are there to remind you that you do have a lot of work to do, that you need to be stronger to overcome those words, and also to always keep a constant watch on your own actions and words so that you may never ever become one of them.

And, so what if you have to start over — again? I believe that starting over means that you are still fighting back. It’s not a sign of failure just because something didn’t work out as planned, or you have to pick up some pieces and start over from scratch. Some things are meant to fall apart; some things are meant to fall apart a hundred times before it will stand strong. What’s meant to be will always find a way, and I truly believe that there’s something special planned for everyone, it’s just a matter of perseverance and passion.

At the lowest of the low times I believe you do need to give yourself a break, take a step back and take a deep breath. Once you can center yourself and ask yourself, “Why are you doing this? Why is this important to you?” you can hopefully regain some positive feelings with what you’re going through. And, if you need to take things one step further, bluntly ask yourself, “Are you still happy doing this? What needs to change?” and be honest with yourself — that’s the toughest part, I think.

So, the thought I leave you with for today is this… Always remember that this is your life and no one else’s. Not another single person on this planet can live the life you’re living. Yes, they may pursue the same dream, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t. And, just because success may come easy to someone else does not mean your efforts are not valid; never let the opinions or successes of others make you and your efforts feel insignificant. What you are doing matters, and what you want to do in your life is important. Whatever it is that you want to do, throw caution into the wind and go for it today because you’re not guaranteed anything tomorrow.


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